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My dearest #MentalMonday❤️🧠reader, Hapoy new month😊. It’s been a while, hasn’t it? Life has a funny way of pulling us in different directions, and sometimes, finding the time and inspiration to write can feel like a daunting task. But here I am, back and ready to reconnect with you! I’ve missed sharing thoughts, stories, and insights, and I can’t wait to dive back into our conversations. Whether you’re a long-time reader or new to this space, I’m excited to share what’s been on my mind and hear your thoughts in return. Thank you for your patience and for being part of this journey. Let’s explore together once more! And for today’s #MentalMonday❤️🧠, it would be a great injustice if we didn’t look at how men also face abuse. So why not get into it, while we still have the buzz from celebrating International Men’s Day and also painting life orange with the 16 Days of Activism against GBV.

In the vibrant and rich life of the African culture, where the rich heritage often intertwines with deeply rooted traditions, the subject of gender-based violence (GBV) and intimate partner violence (IPV) emerges as a multifaceted narrative—one that is frequently told through the lens of women’s experiences. However, an often-overlooked aspect is the plight of men, who, despite societal perceptions of masculinity, also fall victim to these insidious forms of violence, profoundly impacting their mental health.  In many communities, the archetype of the stoic man prevails, a figure who embodies strength, resilience, and emotional fortitude. This cultural construct can create an environment where men feel compelled to suppress their vulnerabilities, leading to an alarming silence surrounding their suffering. The stigma attached to male victimhood in GBV and IPV is palpable; men are often ridiculed or dismissed when they speak out about their experiences. This societal pressure not only silences their voices but also exacerbates their mental health struggles, leading to feelings of isolation, shame, and despair.

Africa, with its diverse cultures and traditions, presents a complex backdrop where notions of masculinity and femininity are intricately woven into the fabric of daily life. In many societies, the expectations placed upon men can be suffocating. They are often seen as the primary providers, tasked with the duty to protect their families while adhering to traditional gender roles. When faced with violence—be it physical, emotional, or psychological—men may grapple with a profound sense of failure, not only in the eyes of their families but also within their communities. The cultural narrative often glorifies male dominance, which can inadvertently perpetuate cycles of emotional abuse. Men may experience manipulation, control, or verbal degradation from partners, yet societal norms often dictate that they should endure such treatment in silence. This emotional abuse, though less visible than physical violence, is equally damaging. It erodes self-esteem and can lead to severe mental health consequences, including depression and anxiety.

The repercussions of GBV and IPV on men extend far beyond the immediate physical harm. The mental health toll is significant, yet frequently neglected in discussions surrounding these issues. Studies indicate that men who experience violence are at a higher risk of developing mental health disorders. The stigma surrounding male victimhood can prevent them from seeking help, perpetuating a cycle of suffering. Men may turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms—substance abuse, aggression, or withdrawal—further alienating them from supportive networks. The pressure to conform to societal expectations of masculinity can exacerbate feelings of inadequacy and despair, creating a chasm of mental anguish that remains largely unaddressed.

To foster a more inclusive dialogue about GBV and IPV, it is imperative to recognize that men, too, can be victims. Challenging the cultural narratives that reinforce toxic masculinity is crucial. It requires a concerted effort from communities, policymakers, and mental health professionals to create safe spaces for men to share their experiences without fear of judgment. Education plays a pivotal role in reshaping perceptions. By promoting awareness of men’s issues related to GBV and IPV, we can begin to dismantle the stigmas that hinder healing. Advocacy for mental health resources specifically tailored to male victims is essential in ensuring that they receive the support they need because#Mentalhealthmatters❤️🧠

Dearest #MentalMonday❤️🧠reader, I pray that you have been treating yourself with the utmost kindness, guarding your heart and soul. Happy New Month, a month where we celebrate and raise awareness on Men’s mental health, because on this platform everyone matters. But before we delve into that today we talk about stress, realizing that the first Wednesday of November is International Stress Awareness Day. Hence, what would be a better way to begin this week, if not by tackling stress first? 

As we navigate our daily lives, stress often blooms unexpectedly, casting shadows on our mental well-being. Like an uninvited storm, it can sweep through our minds, distorting our thoughts and clouding our emotions. However, within this tempest lies the opportunity for growth and resilience. By cultivating awareness of stress and nurturing strategies to cope, we can transform this disruptive force into a catalyst for personal flourishing.

Stress, in its multifaceted form, is a natural response to the numerous challenges we face. It can manifest as a fleeting whisper of anxiety or an overwhelming chorus of worry. Recognising the signs of stress is the first step in our journey toward tranquility. Common symptoms may include:

Physical Indicators: Tension headaches, fatigue, or a racing heart can signal the presence of stress, much like the first signs of a storm gathering on the horizon.

Emotional Responses: Feelings of irritability, sadness, or even apathy may unfurl like petals under the weight of overwhelming pressure.

Cognitive Effects: Difficulty concentrating or making decisions can cloud our minds, akin to a fog rolling over a serene landscape.

By tuning into these signals, we cultivate a deeper understanding of our inner garden, enabling us to address stress before it becomes a wild thicket.

To navigate the intricate pathways of stress, we must plant the seeds of mindfulness. This practice invites us to remain present, to savor each moment as it unfolds. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and gentle movement can anchor us in the present, allowing our thoughts to drift like leaves on a gentle breeze.

Deep Breathing: Inhale deeply through the nose, feeling the air fill your lungs, and exhale slowly through the mouth. This rhythmic dance of breath can calm the tempest within.

Meditation: Carving out a few moments each day for meditation can help you reconnect with your inner self, nurturing a sense of peace and clarity.

Gentle Movement: Whether it’s a leisurely stroll through nature or graceful yoga poses, movement can release pent-up energy, restoring balance to our bodies and minds.

Just as a garden requires care and attention, so too does our mental health. Here are some practical strategies to help you cultivate a flourishing state of mind:

1. Establish Boundaries

In the age of constant connectivity, it’s essential to set boundaries that protect your time and energy. Learn to say no when necessary, allowing space for rest and rejuvenation.

2. Seek Support

Reach out to friends, family, or professionals who can offer a listening ear or a guiding hand. Sharing your struggles can lighten the load, much like sharing the harvest of a bountiful garden.

3. Engage in Creative Outlets

Expressing yourself creatively—be it through art, music, or writing—can serve as a powerful antidote to stress. Allow your imagination to flow freely, transforming tension into vibrant expression.

4. Embrace Nature

Nature has an unparalleled ability to soothe the soul. Spend time outdoors, breathe in the fresh air, and let the beauty of the natural world rejuvenate your spirit.

As we understand stress awareness and practice coping strategies, we nurture resilience within ourselves. This strength allows us to weather life’s storms with grace, emerging stronger and more vibrant. Remember, just as flowers bloom after the rain, we too can flourish after overcoming adversity.

In this delicate dance with stress, let us embrace awareness and cultivate a garden of serenity. By tending to our mental health with love and intention, we can transform the shadows of stress into a beautiful picture of resilience and joy. Let us step forward, hand in hand, into a future where peace and balance blossom abundantly for every one of us Because#Mentalhealthmatters❤️🧠

My esteemed and dearest #MentalMonday❤️🧠reader. I trust you have been doing well, especially this month, in which we celebrate Mental Health Day. It would not be enough dear reader if we closed this precious month without addressing setting boundaries and choosing ourselves so as to protect our peace and most importantly, our mental health. As we stroll, in this lush garden of life, where every soul is a unique bloom, the delicate balance of mental health stands as a radiant flower, beckoning us to tend to its needs with care and compassion. Just as a gardener nurtures each plant, so must we cultivate our mental well-being through the sacred art of setting boundaries and choosing ourselves.

Imagine, if you will, the mind as a vibrant ecosystem, teeming with thoughts, emotions, and experiences. In this garden, the weeds of stress, anxiety, and external pressures can threaten to overrun our cherished blooms. It is here that the practice of setting boundaries becomes our most trusted tool, a gentle yet firm hand that prunes away what no longer serves us, allowing our inner garden to flourish. Boundaries are not barriers; rather, they are the trellises that support the growth of our mental health. They define the space in which we can thrive, ensuring that we do not become overshadowed by the demands and expectations of others. By establishing these sacred lines, we create a sanctuary where our true selves can blossom, free from the choking vines of obligation and guilt.

In a world that often celebrates self-sacrifice, choosing oneself can feel like an act of rebellion, and yet it is a bold declaration of self-love. To choose yourself is to recognize your worth, to honor your needs, and to prioritize your well-being above all else. This journey begins with the gentle whisper of intuition, urging you to listen to your heart and to trust in your own desires. Imagine standing at a crossroads, where the voices of others beckon you down a path laden with expectations. It is in this moment that the power of choice becomes your guiding star. By selecting the road that aligns with your true self, you not only honor your own spirit, but you also cultivate an environment that nurtures your mental health.

As we find ourselves in the spotlight, taking centre stage in this ball, navigating the dance of connection with others, it is vital to remember that healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect and understanding. By setting boundaries, we communicate our needs clearly, allowing for a harmonious exchange of energy. This dance is not one of isolation, but rather a celebration of autonomy, where each partner moves in sync, honoring both individual desires and collective harmony. In this delicate balance, we learn that saying “no” does not equate to rejection, instead it is an affirmation of our commitment to ourselves. Each boundary we set becomes a stepping stone toward deeper connections, as we invite others to engage with us from a place of authenticity and respect.

As we embark on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment, let us remember that setting boundaries and choosing ourselves is not a destination, but a continuous process of growth. Just as a flower unfurls its petals to the sun, we too must embrace the light of self-awareness and the warmth of self-compassion. In moments of doubt, when the weight of the world feels heavy upon our shoulders, let us return to the garden of our minds. There, we can nurture our mental health by reaffirming our boundaries, choosing ourselves, and allowing our true selves to flourish. In doing so, we not only enhance our own well-being but also inspire those around us to cultivate their own gardens, creating a collective bloom of resilience and vitality.

Finally, as we tend to our gardens of self-care and boundary setting, may we remember that boundaries can be physical, emotional, verbal and time-oriented, financial or sexual, and more so even work and spiritual. Choosing oneself ensures the creation of a radiant future, one where mental health is prioritized, and the beauty of individuality is celebrated. Together, let us embark on this blossoming journey, nurturing our minds and hearts, and fostering a world where every soul can thrive in the garden of life, Because#Mentalhealthmatters❤️🧠

 

My Dearest #MentalMonday❤️🧠reader. I hope you have had a wonderful week, taking care of your mental health, remembering that you can’t pour from an empty cup, and above all celebrating your role in mental health. I trust that our heads and hearts are buzzing with PinkOctober and Mental health day celebrations, colouring the world around us with pink and green. And for that reason, today we will talk Mental health and survival, particularly in regard to breast cancer.

Amongst the infinite hassles and hurdles that life hails at us, the stories of women touched by breast cancer shine with a unique brilliance, illuminating the pathways of courage and hope. Each narrative is a testament to the extraordinary spirit of those who have battled this disease, whether they have triumphed, faced the heart-wrenching sorrow of loss, or continue to navigate the uncertain waters of possibility.

Breast cancer, a word that can invoke fear and uncertainty, also serves as a catalyst for profound transformation. For every woman who receives that life-altering diagnosis, a journey begins—one that is often marked by moments of vulnerability and grace. These women, with hearts full of tenacity, become warriors in their own right. Their stories are not solely about the challenges they face, but also about the strength they unearth within themselves, redefining what it means to be brave. Imagine the courage it takes to face the unknown, to embrace each day with a spirit that refuses to be subdued. These women rise like phoenixes from the ashes of despair, finding beauty in the small victories—a good day, a supportive word, a moment of laughter shared with loved ones. They teach us that even in the darkest of times, light can be found, and joy can still flourish.

Yet, not every story concludes with survival. For those who have succumbed to this relentless disease, we hold their memories as sacred treasures. They are the stars that light our night sky, their legacies woven into the very fabric of our lives. We honor them not just in sorrow, but in celebration: of their lives, their dreams, and their indomitable spirits. They inspire us to advocate for awareness, to support research, and to foster a community that uplifts one another. In remembering these remarkable women, we find a renewed commitment to cherish every moment and to embrace the connections that bind us together. Their stories remind us that love is a powerful force, capable of transcending even the most profound loss.

Amidst the struggles and triumphs, there exists another group of unsung heroes—those who stand as steadfast pillars of support. Friends, family, and caregivers embody a selflessness that deserves recognition. They are the gentle hands that wipe away tears, the listening ears that offer solace, and the hearts that provide unwavering encouragement. These supporters often carry the weight of worry, yet they do so with grace and compassion. Their love is a balm, soothing the wounds of fear and uncertainty. They remind those in the fight that they are not alone, that every battle is shared, and that hope thrives in the embrace of community. Together, they weave a network of strength that can uplift even the heaviest of hearts.

As we celebrate these incredible women; those who have fought valiantly, those we have loved and lost, and those who stand by their side, we are called to action. Let us continue to raise our voices for awareness, to support research initiatives, and to foster environments where open conversations about breast cancer can flourish. Together, we can cultivate a world where every woman feels empowered to face her journey with hope and dignity. Let us embrace the beauty of solidarity, lifting one another up, and celebrating the myriad ways in which we can support each other. In this shared experience, we discover the true essence of humanity; compassion, resilience, and an unyielding belief in the power of love.

Finally, as we navigate our way in this week, let us carry forward the stories of those affected by breast cancer, weaving their legacies into the fabric of our lives. Together, we can illuminate the path for future generations, ensuring that the light of hope continues to shine brightly in the hearts of those who need it most, Because#Mentalhealthmatters❤️🧠

Hello folks😊..Happy October and Happy World Mental Health day. In today’s post I would love to celebrate each and every one of us. The role we play in mental health, taking care of the next person, taking care of ourselves and above all, picking ourselves up when storms brew and rage and threaten to drown us. In this human existence that we are constantly trying to make head and tail of, and at times we realise it is like a woven basket, where each thread plays a crucial role in creating a vibrant and resilient fabric of mental well-being. It is a delicate interplay of relationships, where friends, relatives, colleagues, therapists, and even the well-meaning pseudo-therapists contribute their unique colours and textures, enriching the collective experience of mental health. 

Imagine, if you will, the warm embrace of a friend on a gloomy day. Friends are the radiant sunbeams that pierce through the clouds of despair, illuminating the path toward healing. Their laughter dances like petals in the wind, reminding us that joy can be found even in the darkest moments. They are the steadfast anchors in the turbulent seas of life, offering a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or simply a shared silence that speaks volumes. In their presence, we find the courage to confront our demons, knowing we are not alone in our struggles.

And while we still savour this wonderful feeling from friendship,  then comes our relatives, the roots that ground us in the rich soil of love and history. They carry the weight of our shared experiences, weaving a narrative that binds generations. Their wisdom, often drawn from the wells of their own trials, provides invaluable guidance as we navigate the complexities of our emotions. In moments of uncertainty, the warmth of familial love serves as a beacon, reminding us of our inherent worth and the strength found in connection. Their unwavering support fosters resilience, allowing us to rise like phoenixes from the ashes of adversity.

Isn’t it lovely just to know that while we still bask in this bliss, there is the professional sphere, our colleagues become the garden in which we cultivate our aspirations. They are the ones who cheer us on as we strive for excellence, creating an environment where creativity and collaboration flourish. Their camaraderie transforms the workplace into a sanctuary of shared goals and mutual respect. By fostering a culture of open dialogue, colleagues provide a safe haven for discussing mental health, breaking down the walls of stigma and isolation. Together, they create a symphony of support that resonates throughout the corridors of our daily lives.

And while we at it, let us not forget the therapists, the skilled artisans of mental health who craft pathways to healing with their wisdom and empathy. They are the compassionate guides who help us unearth the layers of our psyche, illuminating the shadows that often cloud our vision. Through their gentle probing and insightful reflections, they empower us to reclaim our narratives, enabling us to weave our own stories of resilience and hope. Their unwavering commitment to our growth reminds us that seeking help is not a sign of weakness but a profound act of courage.

Parts of the thread that make complete the reed basket, are the pseudo-therapists – those friends or acquaintances who, with the best intentions, offer unsolicited advice or casual counselling. While their methods may lack formal training, their desire to help stems from a place of genuine concern. They remind us of the importance of community and the myriad ways we can support one another. Even in their imperfect attempts, they contribute to the larger dialogue about mental health, encouraging us to seek connection and understanding. 

As we navigate the complexities of life, it becomes increasingly clear that mental health is not a solitary endeavour. It is a harmonious symphony, composed of the melodies of friendship, the harmonies of family, the rhythms of professional camaraderie, and the profound insights of trained professionals. Each individual, in their unique role, contributes to this collective effort, creating a rich soundscape that celebrates the beauty of human connection.

In this grand orchestra of support, let us appreciate the vital roles we all play. Let us nurture one another with kindness, empathy, and understanding, for it is in our shared experiences that we discover the true essence of mental health. Together, we can weave a tapestry of resilience that not only enriches our own lives but also serves as a beacon of hope for others. In unity, we find strength, in connection, we find healing, and together we will weather the storms life throws at us, Because#Mentalhealthmatters❤️🧠

Dear #MentalMonday❤️🧠Reader, this monday we also happen to be closing the month of September but before we do that, we take this time to talk about living with Alzheimer’s. In human experience, human experience, few threads are as intricate and poignant as those woven by individuals living with Alzheimer’s disease. This condition, often shrouded in shadows of confusion and memory loss, can obscure the vibrant essence of those affected. Yet, in the midst of this struggle, there exists a profound beauty – a celebration of life, love, and resilience that deserves to be illuminated.

While Alzheimer’s may dim the lights of recollection, it cannot extinguish the warmth of the human spirit. Each person grappling with this condition carries within them a rich history, a narrative filled with laughter, dreams, and cherished moments. It is essential to honor these stories, for they are the very fabric of identity, crafted through years of experiences that have shaped their uniqueness. Celebrating individuals with Alzheimer’s means embracing the fragments of memory that remain, cherishing the tales they share, however fleeting. A beloved song, a familiar scent, or a well-worn photograph can evoke a cascade of emotions, reminding us that their essence is ever-present, waiting to be rekindled in the hearts of those who love them.

In a world that often rushes by, the journey of someone with Alzheimer’s invites us to slow down, to engage in the art of presence. Simple moments – holding hands, sharing a gentle smile, or enjoying a quiet afternoon – become sacred opportunities for connection. These interactions are imbued with a sense of purpose, allowing us to bridge the gap created by memory loss. Family members and caregivers play a vital role in this celebration, embodying compassion and patience as they navigate the complexities of communication. Their dedication transforms each day into a beautiful tale of shared experiences, where the focus shifts from what is lost to what remains – the love that binds us together. 

Celebrating those with Alzheimer’s is also about finding joy in the mundane. It’s in the small victories – a moment of clarity, a burst of laughter, or a shared memory that surfaces unexpectedly. These instances, though perhaps fleeting, are gems that sparkle amidst the challenges, reminding us of the beauty of the human experience. Activities that engage the senses – music therapy, art, gardening – can spark joy and creativity, allowing individuals to express themselves in meaningful ways. These moments of connection foster a sense of belonging, reminding us that even in the face of adversity, joy can flourish.

As we celebrate those living with Alzheimer’s, let us also cultivate a culture of understanding and compassion. Society must rally around these individuals and their families, providing support and resources that honor their dignity. Awareness campaigns, community programs, and educational initiatives can illuminate the path toward a more inclusive world, where the complexities of Alzheimer’s are met with empathy rather than stigma. In this celebration, we honor not just the struggles but the triumphs – the unwavering spirit of those who face each day with courage. Let us lift our voices in gratitude for their contributions, for the lessons they teach us about love, patience, and the enduring nature of the human spirit.

In the heart of Alzheimer’s lies a narrative, rich with significance, a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. By celebrating those affected, we shine a light on their journeys, honoring their memories and the love that continues to thrive. Let’s listen attentively to the cry of loneliness that comes from the hearts of the elderly and give them the warmth they seek. Let us embrace this celebration with open arms, for in doing so, we uphold the beauty of every individual’s story, reminding ourselves that even amidst uncertainty, love remains the most powerful force of all.

And closing the month of September which is also Suicide Prevention month, we remind every one comes across this blog to always reach out and hold on…there is always hope Because #MentalHealthMatters❤️🧠

My Dearest #MentalMonday❤️🧠 Reader, I am here wondering what suicide week has been like for you. What part did you take in it? Did you raise awareness on suicide? Did you spread a little kindness, threw in a joke here and there to lighten someone’s mood, perhaps share a smile or just hugged someone and made them feel grounded and not as though the world will surely swallow them? Or maybe yet my favourite, did you manage to sit down with your skeletons, embrace life’s hiccups and hurricanes, and yet still rise above suicidal ideation and chose life and hope? However, for me this week has made me realisehow life is one big show, colourful for most of the time, but there are two things that are a showstopper to this life, Love and Grief. And for this reason as September, is dedicated to the subject of Suicide prevention, we might as well talk grief.

While Love is equally a showstopper to life as grief is, it comes in to add more colour, while grief on the other hand well, it weaves its dark threads, creating a stark contrast against the vibrant hues of life. This guest, unwelcome to the show carries with it a weight that can feel insurmountable and in worst cases, it is crippling. Like any unwanted and uninvited guest, grief has the tendency to arise unexpectedly, sweeping us off our feet and leaving us in its wake. It manifests in myriad forms—sadness, anger, confusion, and dare I say even relief (when the loss is of someone who had been terminally ill and in a lot of pain). Each individual experiences grief in a deeply personal manner, shaped by the unique contours of their life, relationships, and experiences. It is a journey marked by peaks and valleys, where moments of clarity can be entwined with overwhelming despair. 

Within the deafening silence of grief, there exists a song of emotions. The heart, heavy with loss, beats to a rhythm that is both haunting and beautiful. Memories flood the mind, each one a delicate petal falling from the tree of remembrance, some vibrant and joyful, others tinged with the bittersweet ache of longing. And while we go through grief, some are dealt a card of disenfranchised grief. That moment where you incur loss but you cannot openly mourn. Maybe because the world does not view it as worth grieving; the ending of a love relationship, the loss of a body arm, the loss of a pet, the loss of a present yet absent parent in your life, or any other loss where society will look at us and say “people have lost more.” But in all honesty, only the grieving person knows how much they have lost.  

It is in this paradox that the essence of grief reveals itself—a complex dance between love and loss. As grief takes root, it can intertwine with our mental health, shaping our thoughts and behaviors in profound ways. The shadows of grief may cast doubt on our self-worth, leading to feelings of isolation and despair. Anxiety can creep in, whispering fears of the unknown and the permanence of loss. Depression may settle like a fog, obscuring the light of hope. Solving this rubik’s cube of emotions requires courage and resilience. It is essential to acknowledge the weight of grief without allowing it to define our existence. As we go through the stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) show yourself some kindness. Seeking support, whether through friends, family, or professional help, can illuminate the path forward. Sharing our stories can transform our pain into a powerful narrative of healing, reminding us that we are not alone in our suffering. Never forget, pain as part of the show of this life thing, also demands an audience. 

Ultimately, grief is not a linear path but a cyclical journey. We might find ourselves repeating a stage of grief, while we thought it had passed. It teaches us the fragility of life and the profound depth of our connections. In embracing the full spectrum of our emotions, we open ourselves to healing, allowing the seeds of resilience to take root. With time, the blossoms of hope and acceptance can emerge from the ashes of sorrow, reminding us that while loss may shape us, it does not have to confine us. We will reach a time when on most days we mother and take care of our grief, we carry it with us proudly as we do our weight, we embrace how it is a part of us, we don’t silence it but rather we are keen to listen to it. We reach a point where we realise it cannot be measured by the time passed since the loss, we hold its hand just as we in our adult capacity still get to have our hands held by our parents and them theirs. 

Finally, what I have learnt in dealing with loss is there is a lot of grieving in what should have been.so the world may not understand but go on and grieve. And also healing takes its sweet time, you cannot rush it. I also wish you I could tell you that we completely heal from loss, but that wouldn’t be true. Grief is a testament to the love we have shared and the lives we have touched. It is a reminder that, even in our darkest moments, there exists the possibility of light. By nurturing our mental health and embracing the journey of grief, we can transform our pain into a beautiful testament to the enduring power of love. Let us honor our grief, for in doing so, we honor the very essence of what it means to be human, Because#Mentalhealthmatters❤️🧠

My dearest #MentalMonday❤️🧠 reader, this month and particularly this week, it’s all about suicide prevention. We skipped the Monday post on purpose, to commemorate suicide prevention day today. One of the leading causes of deaths is suicide, a catastrophe that we can solve by understanding mental health more and accommodating the next person and making them feel seen and heard. How easy it is to judge those who have attempted suicide, practise self harm or have died by suicide. 

Today the narrative changes as we take a deeper look into their plight and the storms that brew within them, the wars that they go to with their thoughts and emotions.

We might all want to agree that in the quiet corners of the human experience, there exists a tempest—a storm so fierce that it can obscure the sunniest of days and drown the softest whispers of hope. This internal hurricane, often unrecognized by the outside world, rages within those who contemplate the unfathomable act of suicide. Each thought, each emotion, swirls together in a chaotic dance, creating a song of despair that can feel insurmountable.

For many, if not all of us at one point, the burden of existence can become unbearably heavy, like an anchor dragging them down into an unending dark pit of sorrow. The mind, once a sanctuary of dreams and aspirations, transforms into a prison of sorrow. Here, shadows loom larger than life, and every glimmer of light seems but a fleeting illusion. In this darkened place, the individual may feel isolated, as if they are adrift in a vast ocean, surrounded by waves of anguish that threaten to engulf them.

Often, the storm within is accompanied by a profound silence, a silence that speaks volumes, a silence so loud it is deafening. It is the silence of unexpressed pain, the silence of unasked questions, and the silence of stigma that shrouds mental health. Those in turmoil may wear a mask, smiling through the storm while their hearts ache with unrelenting sorrow. This façade can create a chasm, a void between the individual and the world, leaving them feeling unseen and unheard.

As the storm rages on, thoughts of escape may surface—thoughts that promise release from the agony. The allure of oblivion can be like a siren’s call, seductive and compelling. In these moments, the individual may believe that ending their life is the only way to silence the tempest, to find peace amidst the chaos. Yet, this path is fraught with tragedy, for it not only extinguishes their light but also sends ripples of despair through the lives of those left behind. And in all honesty, are we ever really certain that the peace we seek is there after this life we know and even more when the departure, is of this heart wrenching nature?

Yet, even in the darkest storm, a flicker of hope can emerge. It may come in the form of a kind word, a gentle touch, or the recognition that one is not alone in their suffering. This spark can reignite the flame of resilience, reminding the individual that life, with all its tumult, can also hold moments of beauty and connection. Seeking help, whether through a trusted friend, a therapist, or a support group, can be the lifeline that guides them back to the shores of hope. The question that looms over our heads is; are you my #MentalMonday reader doing your part as an individual who is now knowledgeable on mental health issues?

Healing is not a linear path; it is a winding road marked by both setbacks and triumphs. It requires courage to confront the storm, to acknowledge the pain, and to embrace vulnerability. It is a journey that takes you to places you never thought you would revisit. Places you prefer to have vanished from this life, but we all know, the body remembers traumatic events in sensations and we need to take on this journey to deal with those emotions, clean our wounds, heal them, and move forward with scars serving as memories of what we have conquered. Through therapy, medication, and support, individuals can learn to navigate their inner turbulence, finding healthier ways to cope and rediscovering the joys that life can offer.

Life is a game of tag, and today I tag us as a society, to cultivate an environment of compassion and understanding. By breaking the silence surrounding mental health, we can create spaces where individuals feel safe to share their struggles without fear of judgment. Listening without prejudice, offering support without conditions—these actions can be lifelines for those in need.

The storm within is a complex and often harrowing experience, but it is not something we cannot conquer.  It is essential to recognize that even in the depths of despair, there exists the possibility of renewal. By reaching out, seeking help, and fostering a culture of empathy, we can transform the narrative from one of hopelessness to one of resilience and hope. And if you ever found yourself at the crossroads, battled and yet conquered the mere thought of suicide, you are a champion, a warrior, a gladiator and a trailblazer for a lot more who will fight and not be subdued by this storm. In this journey, every life is precious, and every story deserves to be told Because#MentalHealthMatters❤️🧠

My dearest #MentalMonday❤️🧠 reader…..I hope August was kind to you. If not, I hope and trust there were beautiful lessons to be learnt and we did not let the disappointment cloud us from seeing these lessons. And on that note, may i also say Happy new month, happy Spring time. This new season got me thinking…when the earth sneezes, we get a cold, when the earth smiles from the clouds we get warmth and for most, an elevated mood. And when the earth cries, we get food , beauty from the flowers and water which neither the plant nor animal kingdom would ever do without. Now dearest reader, my question for you this Monday is, when we cry, what ripple effect is found? When our mental health buckets spill over, do we make any gains from this predicament? Do we pay heed to the gentle whispers and breeze that beckons us to pause, reflect and offload?

Recently, the dialogue surrounding mental health has blossomed, akin to a garden awakening in the spring. No longer shrouded in the shadows of stigma and misunderstanding, conversations about mental well-being are now embraced with open hearts and minds. This shift towards openness is imperative, for it allows individuals to share their struggles and triumphs, fostering a sense of community and belonging. While stigma, like a dense fog, can make uncertain the path to understanding and healing its role in mental health cannot be ignored. By engaging in candid discussions about mental health, we can dissipate this fog, illuminating the realities faced by many. When we speak openly, we dismantle the barriers that confine us, allowing empathy and support to flourish. Each conversation acts as a gentle breeze, carrying away the weight of shame and fear, and replacing it with hope and solidarity.

At its core, talking about mental health is an invitation to connect. It is a reminder that we are not solitary beings, but rather part of a vast and intricate web of humanity. Sharing our experiences creates bonds, fostering a sense of belonging that is essential for emotional well-being. In these exchanges, we find solace, understanding, and the assurance that we are not alone in our struggles. One of my favourite analogies is to say that our mental health bucket can be likened to a laundry basket. If carelessly tackled, the laundry basket will spill over. However, if the laundry is unpacked and is neatly folded, the very same clothes will fit in well and the basket will not spill over. This analogy is a lesson for us that our mind also gets overwhelmed and we need to cry out, unpack our issues so our minds are at rest. 

Discussing mental health is not merely an act of sharing; it is a powerful tool for cultivating resilience. By acknowledging our challenges, we equip ourselves with the knowledge and strategies to navigate life’s storms. Conversations can unveil coping mechanisms, inspire positive change, and empower individuals to take charge of their mental wellness. In this way, dialogue becomes a catalyst for growth, enabling us to flourish even in adversity. 

As we stand at the starting line of change, let us embrace the responsibility to talk about mental health. As we celebrate Spring, embracing nature’s rebirth and recreation, let us also participate in seeing through a new dawn in Mental health. Let us create spaces where vulnerability is celebrated, where voices are heard, and where understanding reigns supreme. Together, we can foster an environment that nurtures mental well-being, transforming pain into purpose and isolation into connection.

Let me close today’s piece by stating that the importance of discussing mental health cannot be overstated. It is a vital conversation that enriches our lives, strengthens our communities, and ultimately, paves the way for a brighter, more compassionate future. In one of my optical journeys, I stumbled upon the lines that said, you should dance with your skeletons, learn their names, so you can ask them to leave. But don’t just stop there, have coffee with them so they can tell you what keeps them around, which doors they always find open.  Let us nurture these Mental health dialogues, allowing them to bloom and thrive, for in every shared word lies the potential for healing and hope, Because#Mentalhealthmatters❤️🧠

 

For my favourite #MentalMonday❤️🧠reader. It’s been a minute because well even for a therapist or a space and pain holder life can also get hectic. I wonder how you have been coping with Monday blues without your usual #MentalMonday❤️🧠read. All I know is that writing to this community has become a part of me. Whilst this post didn’t make it to be delivered on a Monday, hopefully this has been deliberate to ensure you had your last blue Monday yesterday and never again‼️And speaking of Monday blues, we never delve much into how they drain us sometimes and ultimately drain our mental wellbeing. Mondays often arrive like a sudden gust of wind, disrupting the tranquil rhythm of the weekend and ushering in what is commonly known as the “Monday blues.” This ephemeral yet poignant phenomenon can cast a shadow over our mental landscape, coloring our thoughts with hues of melancholy and apprehension.

As the sun rises on Monday morning, its golden rays illuminate a path fraught with responsibilities and expectations, a path that beckons us back to the bustling world of work and obligations. The transition from the restful sanctuary of the weekend to the demanding realm of the workweek can be a jarring one, stirring within us a symphony of emotions that echo through the chambers of our hearts. The feeling stings even more when the workplace carries with it a heavy song of toxicity.

The Monday blues, like a delicate blossom swaying in the breeze, can signify more than just a temporary feeling of unease. It can be a whisper from the soul, a gentle reminder to pay heed to our mental well-being amidst the whirlwind of daily life. Just as a garden requires tender care and nurturing, so too do our minds crave attention and solace in the face of the Monday blues.

In the garden of our minds, it is crucial to tend to the roots of our emotions, to water the seeds of self-compassion and resilience. When the Monday blues cast their shadow, it is a call to cultivate practices of self-care and mindfulness, to bask in the gentle embrace of activities that nourish our spirits and soothe our souls.

Amidst the cacophony of the workweek, it is essential to carve out moments of stillness, to listen to the whispers of our hearts and honor the depths of our emotions. Engaging in rituals of self-care, whether it be a stroll in nature, a cup of fragrant tea, or a moment of quiet reflection, can serve as a balm for the weary soul and a beacon of light in the midst of the Monday blues.

Let us embrace the Monday blues not as a burden to bear, but as a melody to be danced to, a reminder of the delicate balance between the demands of the external world and the needs of our inner selves. By tending to the garden of our minds with care and compassion, we can navigate the errs and flow of the Monday blues with grace and resilience, emerging stronger and more attuned to the symphony of our own hearts. Lend an ear to a co-worker or a stranger that you meet on the way and begin to ramble on about their life. Smile as widely as you can. You never know how much that goes as far as healing the next soul. Hug and give solace to the next person, sometimes we are hurt through touch and find our healing in touch. Sit and have a cup of…… whatever tickles your taste buds with the other. It may be the only companionship they have had in a while. And always remember to make the other person seen, see their soul as well. There is always something we can do for the other just by making use of our five senses😊

So as we await all the Mondays that are yet to come, let us use all the mental health knowledge we have, the self -care tips we have gathered on this platform, and all the while extending a little kindness to the people around us Because#Mentalhealthmatters❤️🧠