Hi good people!
Today I want to touch on something sensitive, and sad, and heartbreaking…
Violence in our love circles.
That’s right guys. I want us to talk about why our families, our relationships, our ‘inner circles’, are seeing and experiencing so much violence. Statistics are going higher by the year, and sadly, less and less people are becoming keen on the idea of love and family. What’s happening out there?
It’s the deafening screams that accompany the hard slap from an infuriated partner. It’s the silent heartbreaking cries muffled in a pillow stemming from unspeakable emotional trauma exerted on the other by their broken partner. It’s the death of a soul that has been stabbed and pierced by words with edges very sharp, a tongue so ruthless and merciless.
Unfortunately, one thing for sure, though, is that when these two met, when this family, when this circle of love was made, none harboured any dark thoughts. At least, that’s what I would like to believe. But somewhere, somehow, trust got broken, lines got crossed, love grew cold, unresolved issues surfaced, and life took its toll.
The phenomenon of familial and domestic violence is slowly eroding our society of family and marital values. It comes in many forms:- physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, financial, even religious. These are aspects and avenues where familial and domestic violence has manifested itself prevalently. And sadly, we are all to blame. Beyond the finger pointing (men saying women push them to their limits, and women saying men take it out on women, and children saying parents don’t want to sit down with them, and parents blaming children, et cetera et cetera), WE ARE ALL TO BLAME. Due to our different personalities, our view of life, and our approach to problems, we all become enablers, aggressors, abusers, and victims. And rather than point fingers, we all need to look for our quiet corners and ak ourselves the following questions :-
- do I seek to resolve everything by physical and violent means?
- do I have any anger issues?
- when a crisis hits the family, our relationship, how do I respond?
Am I a flight or fight person?
If you answered yes to any of the above questions, the bigger question then becomes:-
WHAT HAVE YOU DONE ABOUT IT?
Have you sought for help for yourself? Have you organized an intervention for your friend in a familial and domestic violence situation? Have you addressed the necessary issues with concerned persons?
There is a lot to be done dear friends. You might be the victim of domestic violence, but you do not need to stay a victim forever. You might be the abuser, but help is there for you too! I will highlight that and more in our next article. For now, stay strong, stay healthy, stay happy, because#mentalhealthmatters❤️🧠
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