When Love is in the Air… And When It’s Not
Hi guys!
February has come and gone. And we all know what February is all about – chocolates and roses, all things sweet and lovey dovey… Yes, the month of Love was here. And we all felt it – in shop displays and media, in practically every corner of the streets in town.
Some of us also had a feel of the month when our own beloveds gave us something, a token of their love for us, or maybe we were the ones who went out of our way to make our significant others feel special and loved and appreciated.
And maybe nothing of that sort happened to us.
That’s all okay.
And that’s the purpose of this particular blog from me to you, to tell you that it’s all good.
See, the danger with all this is that if we let it rub off on us the wrong way, we’ll end up with a lot of anxiety, stress, depression and all related mental health problems that come with expectations, fantasies, unrealistic standards, and anything that usually comes with all the love saga.
So, let’s talk about this. The whole point of Valentine’s Day, Lovers Month, and other related February activities, is to celebrate love. It’s not a way of pressurising oneself, or your partner. Nor is it a trigger for unrealistic expectations, based on what others might be having or doing or going through as couples. Valentine’s will always come and go, but your mental health will always be there. So how do we deal with this?
- love and live within your means, not just materially, but emotionally and mentally. Do not find yourself being compelled to do something you’re not comfortable in doing.
- be honest and open. Communicate how you feel and where you are mentally, affectively, and emotionally, with your partner. That way, you won’t find yourself where you’d rather not be. Nor will you pressurise your partner into tight corners.
- be flexible, reasonable, and realistic.
- Above all, guard your heart.
A final word: – single, taken, complicated, we are all prone to love related anxieties and mental repercussions. It’s wise then, to love yourself enough to take care of yourself, so that you’ll be able to love others in the way they ought to be loved – as full human beings with dignity and individuality. Hurt people hurt people – and so those who can’t love themselves can’t love others, and those who can’t safeguard themselves cannot be trusted with other people’s emotional and mental wellbeing. Do good for yourself, so that you’ll do good for others.
Because #mentalhealthmatters❤️🧠
Because#Mentalhealthmatters❤🧠 